VHTV didn’t explain anything. They merely stated " It did not happen during combat " . We don’t know what exactly was the cause of his death, but I am positive that if this war didn’t happen, Lucas and thousands more Ukrainian would still be alive. The fucking war had everything to do with it.
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I just want to say one thing on the subject. I think everyone somewhere has an argument as to whether it makes sense to continue to commemorate Lucas with pictures or not.
With 100 people, there will probably be 100 different ways each character will go about their grieving process.
In the end, it’s the process of coming to terms with it, and above all the time, that gets someone back on track. One person does it this way, another takes longer.
We don’t know how long Amelie will take, or how Amelie will manage it. I just believe that this young woman will make it.
We should support Amelie with warm words and verbal hugs. And when she asks @Bluewinner, for example, to post more memories, we should honour her request.
Maybe Amelie doesn’t even have the pictures we have from the VHTV past.
So I say to Amelie: cheer up, we’re with you. And one day the dark clouds will clear. You will show us all in your unique way when you are feeling better again. I really hope so! 
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Totally agree.
Amelie stated here
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Naked, she puts on Lucas’s leather jacket … to smell him…
Then she lies down on the bed … crying … What sadness …
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Today is 40 days😔
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In Greece we say that you will never forget him and he will live through your memory…
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Sending prayers and strength to you always 
Lucas will never be forgotten 
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We see your pain, we feel your pain and all it touches - search for such peace you can find in the joy of memory. Bless you. 
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Yeah, I was aware of Amelie’s statement when I made that comment, as there are so many unanswered questions in my mind. but I respect their privacy and I am not going to speculate.
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I still can’t believe it happened 
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I will light a candle for him according to orthodox tradition.
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What has helped me when I lost a loved one, was that I focused on the positives we lived together. Not the loss.
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In practice, the form, sequence and duration of a grieving process is different for everyone. And the idea that there are clearly defined phases sometimes leads to confusion rather than offering support. Some even indicate that they doubt ‘whether they are grieving properly’. The description of grief in terms of fixed phases does not do justice to the diverse ways in which grieving is experienced.
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Losing someone is accompanied by a pain that no one can take away. And it is not always understood. Only you feel and experience this pain.
The intensity and frequency with which you experience the pain can vary greatly. So you can be intensely sad one moment and have fun the next. This may and can also be a discharge of your emotions.
It is often said that crying is good for you, and that you can throw it out. However, this does not have to be your way of grieving. How a grieving person feels the pain and how this is expressed differs per person. Just like the way someone deals with it. Some people seek out the pain in a measured manner by looking at photos of the deceased, while others prefer to seek distraction. Moreover, there is no cut-off date and the loss can suddenly hit you years later. This is part of it, emotions simply cannot be controlled.
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I absolutely understand what he’s going through. Sometimes you can get through a day without much memory of him and the next day it hits you with a much greater intensity.
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