I donât believe thatâs a decision you can make for anyone, except yourself.
I believe thatâs for Amelie to decide, not us. Only Amelie knows whatâs best for her, even if some donât understand or agree with her.
What youâve said may be how you would deal with grief. It could be how a 1000 other people would do it, but Amelie clearly let us know it is not her way.
I believe her wishes should be honored, even if some canât understand or agree with them, especially in a situation like this.
If you want to support Amelie in her grieving process? Then forget about looking for solutions. You cannot take away the pain. Instead, listen to what she has to say and do so without judgment. Ask what she need. The most important thing is we are there for her,
This story illustrates very nicely: a man walks through a front door and is immediately hit by the smell of good food. He is curious about what goodies will be served. He enters the first room and sees an amazing buffet and people with meter-long spoons that they canât bring to their mouths. They donât look happy and healthy, rather starved and irritated. He goes into another room. Everyone there is cheerful and happy, even though they have the same meter-long spoons. What is the difference? They feed each other instead of themselvesâŚ
Silence, respect and extended hand 
That is PRECISELY what I have been saying throughout this entire conversation, and nothing more.
Iâve never once tried to find any kind of solution for Amelie. I didnât need to. Amelie, herself, told us exactly what she needed, and all I have ever said is we should first and foremost honor her wishes. We should give her exactly what she asked for.
Amelie knows best what she needs. She knows whatâs best for her, even if others donât understand or agree with her decision. Even if others would have her do it differently. The bottom line is, itâs her decision, not ours .
Best,
my answer was in principle addressed to Cho2vant, I indeed blundered in linking this as a reply to your message. We say the exact same thing, sorry about that
Not a problem. Thanks for letting me know.
The period after the event, called the mourning period, is a segmented period consisting of disbelief, denial, anger, despair, sadness and finally acceptance. Not necessarily in that order, and for different lengths of time and with different emotional psychological expression for each person.
Statistically speaking, for most mourners this period is distinctly memorial. Everything is circling around lost person, faces on the street, places where was time spent together, parts of wardrobe, smells, soundsâŚeverything.
For an example like Amelieâs, there is no factor that could erase those memories, his image, their shared experiences. And she does not want to do that. Everyone says to themselves that they would like to, because such a memory causes psychological trauma, a tightness in the chest, a quickening of the pulse, crying, i.e. physical connotations.
In spite of all this, they want to talk about that person, to remember them, to weep for them. It is as if they want to torture themselves.
But in reality, it is a search for the bottom. Because it is only when one is truly at rock bottom that one can look up again and stand up again.
Only then comes the period of acceptance.
Before that, everything in Amelieâs head will revolve around Lucas. No matter what we say, do, or not do here.
The fact is, Amelie does not want to be alone at this moment in these memories, in this pain.
I think Amelie is in a very stressful situation and enviroment (war). The best for her is to attend to a psycologist. Its too much not for her only but for anyone that would be in her place
Itâs definitely good for Amelie that she doesnât live alone. And with Pearl and Oscar, she has two friends at her side. Who support each other.
I think that helps her a lot to get over this difficult time. However long it takes.
Amelie is young and Iâm sure sheâll get through it. 
And maybe we can help them, I think, if we keep encouraging them with loving and uplifting words. 
Itâs great to see Amelie doesnât have to go through this alone it warms my heart to see forum members on here and her friends that care for her so much to help her through a difficult time So many forum members with kind hearts
@darron255810 whatâs so funny ?