Why is this behavior tolerated for so long is beyond me.
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admin ie:kaya as said in the past he is a special case , i know she was joking but still beggars the question, ive been nasty to him ,ive been nice to him. ive even used reverse psychology on him , all have failed , so now i just either ignore him or play with him , i doubt any of the admin will do anything to stop him from doing it , from the way i see things the powers that be, dont think hes hurting anyone and our own personall opinions on the matter dont count for diddly squat
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Many participants do not like his bullying.
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I agree with you , but this is not the first time this as been discussed and everytime nothing happens perhaps tthe participants can submit a complaint , enough of them use the forum
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Well maybe this time it will…
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As long as I don`t feel a behaviour does not affect me on a personal level, then that is ok with me. No problem at all. 
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I’ll start with the sad one:
Life is unfair!
To do well for EVERYONE, it will never work either. We try to make sure that there is no rudeness, but sometimes the line between “I think so” and “I intentionally want to offend someone” is very thin.
you can’t make remarks to someone all the time, even if they are deserved. It’s not going to work anyway.
Do you know what practice has shown? What works?
Your personal ignore! If people stop paying attention to rudeness, the rude person becomes bored and leaves.
When someone “bullies” (intentionally offends), they only want your attention. And the more you discuss it, the more comfortable he feels. “We feed this wolf (or troll) ourselves.”
Note that I am not talking about any particular person right now.
Usually, such people do unpleasant things for others because they themselves are unhappy (to a greater or lesser extent). And they create discontent in others so that others will be a little closer to them in terms of their condition in this life. They just don’t try to get up, but try to lower those who are nearby, or rather those who react.
My advice is not to react. Just stop responding to those lines that you don’t like, especially when it’s not the first time.
I understand that it is impossible NOT to read it. But just imagine that it’s like a sign on a store when you’re driving. She caught your eye, you read the text and drove on without doing anything about it.
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I agree. But I was not worried about myself than about participants reading the forum and might think this is a common opinion. Especially with the language barrier sometimes.
But thanks for looking into it 
Thank you for taking care of the participants
We all have to learn to be in the same world with very different people, good, evil, etc.
It is in these situations that we learn to deal with negativity.
of course, we will try to prevent outright bullying, but it is not possible to “build a rainbow world” even in a single forum
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For me there is no languague barrier because I get english very well despite not being an Englishman. At such a place like this I have to learn to not let things affect me too much and just ignore the things that is not worth caring about.
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maybe your support and warm words to the participant will be enough so that he does not react to the negative either
I’m rude, you just have to ignore
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exactly what i was saying but explaned in a more diplomatic way 
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Damn it did not display properly. 
Are you rude? I have not payed enough attention to it to notice it yet.
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Now the question is: is this rude or a joke?
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I consider it a joke. And not stepping over any line. Just fine by me.
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I’m pretty sure that all the participants or guests loved when you were calling them “boring” all over the forum. Not that is also a serious insult and most of the people will consider it as “bullying”…
Just saying… 
I am on the main site since 2021 and came to the forum in 2022.
As a suggestion for improving the forum (and over all site experience), i would take a much drastic stance against the forum manipulators and participants directors. Starting with a warning, followed by a temporary silencing and ending with a ban.
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меня тоже можно назвать манипулятором.
что вы имеете ввиду?
и “participants directors”… вы считаете кто-то недостоин быть на форуме?
боюсь это долгая дискуссия
но то что я увидела, вы хотите крупной модерации, это так?
(на всякий случай предупрежу, что я никого не игнорирую, но мне нужно оставить мой компьютер и продолжительное время я не смогу отвечать здесь)
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