Are you guys for real? He said he doesn’t find her hot and that is insulting???
Are you all gone crazy? What is this, the “we can only speak about good stuff” association?
Snowflakes…
I wonder how many people will now be offended.
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@robwin will be, I heard he likes to be the only snowflake in the village. 
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You must be joking, seems to be rules for many and not others it seems 
C’mon people be reasonable. Go in to Henry topic. “_____er, smoker, pervert, relationships/liver destroyer…”, you name it. That’s what people are sayint about him in his topic.
But I can’t see any insulting drama? Why?
And then someone writes that a woman isn’t sexy to him and it’s called an insult…
Why are certain things permitted or normally accepted in some places, but denied in others, albeit in a much kinder, more human form?
I don’t jump around my wife all the time and lie to her about how she has the most beautiful haircut in the galaxy every second, because that’s just not true.
If she asks me in the morning how her hair is and I tell her to brush it because it looks messy, it’s not my problem if she’s offended because I’ve only said what I feel. But because she is a normal person, she jumps up to the mirror and sees for herself. And if she needs to, she uses a comb, or whatever she feels like. Without any resentment.
I realise that I am not the most popular person here and when someone accuses me of anything I can go cry in a corner, I can learn Wikipedia by heart and go into meaningless name-calling and bickering. And I play the offended c___d with phd knowledge.
Or…
I read it twice and think about what has been said. I may learn a truth hitherto unknown to me. If I really disagree with what is said, I will use reasoning that is the product of my experience, not Google, Wiki, or some other impersonality.
And often such “fights” turn into an interesting debate.
Then Jabbs comes along, marks it offtopic and deletes it…
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I can only write my opinion on this. About Henry: people simply write what every single one of us can see…the not deniable reality about his various habits.
About calling a woman (with whom you don’t have a personal or close relationship like you have with your wife) not sexy or hot (basically ugly) it is at least rude (if not insulting)
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I totally understand you, but you must understand if some girl is not hot for me, that’s my truth. I can be quiet, or I can say the truth.
I will give an example.
I ask you in the topic if you find xxxxx hot. And you don’t find her hot.
You have three options. You are silent. You lie. You tell the truth.
Which will you choose? Will your answer of truth be an insult? Or just your feeling?
For example, I would choose silence. If my answer is really required, then definitely the truth.
When a neighbour asked me for a tool that was worth quite a lot to me, I said no, because then I would have to beg for it, and wait… He didn’t speak to me for a year.
I could have lied about not having it or something. The truth showed me a man who appreciates me just because I have something he doesn’t have.
A seemingly unrelated matter actually has quite a lot in common. Who to trust and who not to trust. We all want to be told the truth, but it is much harder to accept it. And the one who knows how to deal with it, has my respect.
I understand Jabbs answer is rude for some. But he chose truth over silence or lies. And he didn’t choose really offensive words, like ugly, disgusting. To me, she is, in his words, an average girl. Like most women on this planet.
I’m talking about looks. Women are otherwise divine beings to me. The most beautiful creature of God.
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I also wrote “for me” so that is my opinion. Leaving the opportunity for others to disagree. I did not say she is ugly. She is just not my type. That is all.
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In most cases, by my nature, i’ll try to be polite first. So i will probably say that she’s not my type. I will lie only if i a woman asks me directly if she’s beautiful and i don’t see her that way. Even more if i don’t know her personally. I’ll probably call her pretty… 
In this case, Jabs probably used some unfortunate words and nothing else. And yes, off course that he can have his opinion like every single one of us does
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Yes, that’s more polite as “not sexy”. Also my choice of words.
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Didn’t this explain it?
Personally I don’t see how “not sexy for me” is insulting, just not his cup of tea
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I don’t see what all the fuss is about
why he get fat soooo fast
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too many
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I think this comment sums it up the best. As the person who brought this whole thing up, I even mentioned that he wasn’t being offensive, just that Jabbs’ truth was unnecessary as her looks were never being discussed and for someone to hear that they aren’t sexy provides nothing but potential to hurt their feelings and the courteous thing would be to not mention it unless asked
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It may if i knew what you are babbling on about???
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