Aged 72, I have already buried a lot of people, from my family of course but also many friends or their families, work colleagues, professional relationships, etc.
From this experiences I assure you, and it is not a personal judgment but the general idea shared by the majority of people, that the best way to help to progress in life the one who remains in pain, doesnât consists to lock him or her in memories. Widow doesnât need you. She has her own memories. Furthermore, the misfortune means that the person is a little confused and doesnât always have the clarity of mind necessary to know what is good for or what is not.
This does not mean that you havenât to be compassionate, but reminding her misfortune is more negative than anything else. If this action is understood in the first days (vidĂ©os), it must quickly stop. Ask a psychologist what he thinks.
The period after the event, called the mourning period, is a segmented period consisting of disbelief, denial, anger, despair, sadness and finally acceptance. Not necessarily in that order, and for different lengths of time and with different emotional psychological expression for each person.
Statistically speaking, for most mourners this period is distinctly memorial. Everything is circling around lost person, faces on the street, places where was time spent together, parts of wardrobe, smells, soundsâŠeverything.
For an example like Amelieâs, there is no factor that could erase those memories, his image, their shared experiences. And she does not want to do that. Everyone says to themselves that they would like to, because such a memory causes psychological trauma, a tightness in the chest, a quickening of the pulse, crying, i.e. physical connotations.
In spite of all this, they want to talk about that person, to remember them, to weep for them. It is as if they want to torture themselves.
But in reality, it is a search for the bottom. Because it is only when one is truly at rock bottom that one can look up again and stand up again.
Only then comes the period of acceptance.
Before that, everything in Amelieâs head will revolve around Lucas. No matter what we say, do, or not do here.
The fact is, Amelie does not want to be alone at this moment in these memories, in this pain.
I think Amelie is in a very stressful situation and enviroment (war). The best for her is to attend to a psycologist. Its too much not for her only but for anyone that would be in her place
Itâs definitely good for Amelie that she doesnât live alone. And with Pearl and Oscar, she has two friends at her side. Who support each other.
I think that helps her a lot to get over this difficult time. However long it takes.
Amelie is young and Iâm sure sheâll get through it. 
And maybe we can help them, I think, if we keep encouraging them with loving and uplifting words. 
Itâs great to see Amelie doesnât have to go through this alone it warms my heart to see forum members on here and her friends that care for her so much to help her through a difficult time So many forum members with kind hearts
@darron255810 whatâs so funny ?
Whatever you may think, such characteristics are derogatory and do not belong here! 
Guys like him donât even know what Derogatory means.
how come user @Darron255810 hasnât been banned yetâŠ
Kaya is not around for some days. Maybe on vacation
guys u going off topic here
@kaya does so much for the forum and it is only right that she also goes on vacationâŠ
donât worry jabba will take care of everything⊠