Lilu, I applaud your “Zen” outlook on life. I also believe that love can move mountains in some situations.
In relationships, the “mountain” has to be willing to move, and if he comes from an entire nation that believes anger and violence is better than the love standing in front of him, then he’s not likely to change his attitude in his lifetime. A leopard can’t change its spots.
And, if he has children, he’s highly likely to teach them the same attitude that he has grown up with and learned his entire life, which you are now witnessing.
And you should not have to walk on eggshells around him. For him to get so fiery angry over some dirty dishes that he’s willing to throw you out on the street, is completely ridiculous.
The next time he tries to throw you out of the apartment just pack a bag and leave. He’ll see in very short order that you are the main attraction in this apartment, not him. He by himself wouldn’t get a dozen views, which is where your money comes from. You should explain that to him.
Before I posted this, I read all the comments that were posted while I was writing it, especially yours. I hope with all my soul that you are right and this won’t happen again and that you guys are on the path of light and love.
But, we’ve watched it happen over and over with the same couples in the past. You said he apologized and it won’t happen again. In the case of domestic violence what that typically means is…until the next time. I dearly hope I’m wrong.
don’t you think you’re exaggerating especially with this sentence it’s okay to give them a warning but to even talk about the future in case they have children seems exaggerated to me…
No, it’s not exaggerated at all. More than likely, he himself “learned” that women are inferior and should obey to what the man says, from his family, that’s how this works…
Psychologists say this kind of thing happens a lot. He learned it from his parents, his parents learned it from their parents, his grandparents learned it from their parents, and so on and so on, and it just gets passed down from one generation to another until someone, somehow finds a way to end it.
As I said in my previous post, I dearly hope I’m wrong for Lilu’s sake. Maybe she’s that someone who somehow finds a way to end it in his generation. I think that might be a monumental task, but maybe with enough love and patience and understanding, she can actually make it happen. I hope so.
We have expressed our concern about Mixo’s behaviour. And Lilu got in touch, and I think Lilu understood our concerns. And explained it to some extent.
For now, let’s accept Lilu’s positives about the matter and her attitude to their relationship. And let’s all enjoy a loving couple.
