I am in touch with quite a few residents via private messaging. Quite a few of them have asked me for personal help, with some of them we talk about normal, everyday things, wish each other good mornings etc.
All of them in turn are extremely pleasant conversationalists and, although I ask them not to give any personal information in our conversation, many of them open up completely. For quite a few of them, there is a lot of struggle in communicating on the forum (not to mention in real life), mostly because of the difficulty in accepting negative feedback. I strongly advise these people to stay away from the forum, anyone who thinks that they will only be praised and showered with hearts on the internet is terribly mistaken.
I considered myself quite lucky to share a private conversation with a participant but itâs important for commenters to remember that just because we can watch these people for hundreds of hours and get a sense of familiarity, we donât actually know them as people and of course we are strangers to them too.
I think if you show respect and compassion, you are more likely to have correspondence but I think some people on here can either overestimate their familiarity with the participants or they can be too cold and speak of the participants as if they are objects
Interesting points on this thread that got me thinking! ( Yep, it can happen ). I have never PM a participant but I do like to see exchanges on the Forum especially when they give an insight into what is going on. The point that we are not friends and are strangers to them is well made but equally who can watch Amelie and Lucas and not be affected by the awful situation they face to the extent of wanting to offer support and hear that they are Ok. To a lesser extent we also watch lots of other dramas played out, especially interpersonal relationships, and again many of us will want to understand and offer support. At the end of the day I think it is up to the participants to decide how far they want to engage with this - but positive engagement is all to the good - for us, for VHTV and for better understanding in the World ( as we all come from its different corners )!
certain users are slaughtering this couple it seems you are doing everything to make them leave (@Sebastian donât listen to the messages you read on the forum) many users still love youâŚ
). I have never PM a participant but I do like to see exchanges on the Forum especially when they give an insight into what is going on. The point that we are not friends and are strangers to them is well made but equally who can watch Amelie and Lucas and not be affected by the awful situation they face to the extent of wanting to offer support and hear that they are Ok. To a lesser extent we also watch lots of other dramas played out, especially interpersonal relationships, and again many of us will want to understand and offer support. At the end of the day I think it is up to the participants to decide how far they want to engage with this - but positive engagement is all to the good - for us, for VHTV and for better understanding in the World ( as we all come from its different corners )!
