Being friends with the right source(s) is also a huge help, of course. 
Although that wouldn’t have happened if I had behaved inappropriately three years ago…
P.S. The 3 years are actually quite fitting. I found VH in February 2022, I don’t remember by what coincidence, and I’ve been a premium member since the beginning of April 2022… …and since the beginning of July, I’ve been in contact with (at the time mainly) Seb, and Ariela, of course.
That’s the moment it all began:
